Do you know what happens when you allow fear to take up ownership of your life?
DOUBT, HURT, WHAT IF’S
Some define F- E- A- R as False Evidence Appearing Real
You know that all too familiar fear when you your client likes your pitch and now-you-have-to-put-your-money-where-your-mouth-is fear.
I struggled with fear management for two years, every time I decided to write something I would stare at the screen for hours at a time and produce absolutely nothing.
What happened when my fears tried to get the best of me?
I developed 6 ways to manage my fears and it turned around my freelance blogging career.
I’m NOT saying it’s the solution to all your freelance writing fears.
But it helps!
1. Rob fear of its symptoms
Here’s the thing, nobody really cares about your fears. People just want to read honest and precise advice from other people who have had the same experiences as them. For example if you keep telling yourself you’re sick you will eventually end up being sick. So for freelance bloggers it’s simple, fear is the sickness and doubt its symptom.
So what do we do?
Don’t define it as “something”, its best to ignore the concept all together. Instead, make a choice to NOT allow it to take root in your life and it will eventually become a “nothing.”
2. Rejection is real – just deal with it
Every sane person cares about what others say about their writing. Your choice lies in, do you take it personal or do you just get over the ‘rejection’ and fix your writing so that you are able to learn from your mistakes.
Do you crawl into a ball and wait for the universe to be kind to you? Just because someone did not like your work, it does not mean that someone else won’t like it. There could be a thousand reasons why your pitch wasn’t chosen i.e. it wasn’t suitable for the potential client blog’s style.
Just deal with it and say “I’ll do better next time.”
3. It’s a choice – you decide
You can gather all types of advice on how to better your freelance blogging career from the leading industry experts, but if you refuse to admit that fear is a problem and utilize their advice, then what’s the point. There is nothing that anyone can do to help you become a better blogger, let alone make you a freelance blogger. Trust me I’ve been there, done that got the t-shirt and it never worked out the way I thought it would.
If you the type of person that listens to other people’s advice and keeps on wishing that it was you. Listen up, the leading industry experts are only able to tell you their stories because they took a chance and made the decision to pursue freelance blogging as a profession. If you want to be able to tell your stories, I suggest that you make that same choice.
4. Don’t pre-anticipate
DO NOT PRE-ANTICIPATE, what’s to come because you cannot control the universe. My biggest mistake was to try and reason out, whether or not I would make it as a freelance blogger before a single attempt was made to win a freelance blogging job.
If you try and run through every single scenario in your mind, you still won’t know whether or not you’re going to make. If anything, it will leave you with more questions than before. You just have to plunge into it and trust that the process will treat you right.
5. Shift your perspective
Do you see adventure and growth or do you see nightmare after nightmare?
By shifting your perspective, you allow yourself to see your circumstances in a different way.
For example, if you put a positive spin on things, you can see adventure and growth but if you focus on the latter, that’s exactly what you’re going to get.
6. Writing is a gift – what will you use it for?
If you could save at least one person with your writing, why would you not want to share it with the world? Remember, instead of fearing the unknown, embrace that different people need different types of writing styles and techniques to capture their attention. What will be your motivation to push through your fears and share your gift of writing to the world?
But…how can you make money from managing your fears?
Well, it’s quite simple; once your fears are managed there are NO MORE obstacles stopping you from experiencing life as a freelance blogger and reaping what you’ve sowed. . The energy that’s released in managing your fears enables and equips you to do the impossible, that’s if you’ll allow it. You’ll remember what motivated you to start writing in the first place or rather what passion you have for writing. In turn you will start to write for the love of writing and it’s at this point that you will start to make money as a freelance blogger!
A few ideas I came up with, off the top of my head; you could target writing experts and start pitching to these major publications or go out on a limb and start your own YouTube channel which could focus on writing and everything related to writing, including helpful tips and hints.
The possibilities are endless!
Let’s face it, as freelance bloggers we love writing but writing alone won’t help you maintain your website domain or the upkeep of your home and family life. These tried and tested techniques allowed me to use my gift, shift my perspective and more importantly not pre-anticipate about what’s to come to be the best freelance blogger that I can be.
Come on, what are you waiting for make a choice, you decide! And leave no pitch unpitched for and no heart unmoved!